Weep with those who weep. --Romans 12:15

The American Hospice Foundation says that bereaved people tend to keep their grieving a secret in the workplace. Many of us have grown up with the idea that sorrow should be overcome quickly. What often happens is that we deny our pain, bottle it up inside, and try to go it alone. A sign that reads "No Grieving Allowed" might as well be posted on the walls at work.

Unfortunately, this same dangerous attitude can invade our homes and communities of faith as well. Grieving presents a dilemma for many Christians. When we feel the deep pain of loss, we often hide it, believing we should be outwardly joyful no matter what has happened. But notice the words of Acts 8:2. Luke wrote that after Stephen was stoned to death by an angry mob, godly men buried him and "made great lamentation over him." Godly men crying and mourning deeply may seem contradictory to some, but the Bible states it plainly in all its emotional impact.

The Lord never asks us to ignore the pain in our hearts. Instead, He calls us to "weep with those who weep" (Rom. 12:15). We are to love and support one another as we move together through the process of grieving.

A heartfelt tear can show such love As words can never do; It says, "I feel in part your pain, My heart goes out to you."

A sorrow shared is a sorrow halved.


与哀哭的人同哭。(罗马书12章15节）

美国救济院基金会发现，很多人在痛失亲人之后，在工作场所掩饰哀伤，强作欢颜。很多人在成长的过程中，都被灌输了这样一个观念，我们应该很快化解悲哀。我们常常否认痛苦，把它藏在心底，不去理它。所以在工作场所的的墙上，也许应该贴上「不许哀伤」的标语。

不幸的是，这种危险的态度也会侵入我们的家庭以及信仰的社团。哀伤使很多基督徒处於两难境地。当我们为失去亲人而深感痛苦时，我们却常常深深地隐藏痛苦。因为我们认为，不论发生什么事，都要在外表上装得高兴。但让我们看一看使徒行传8章2节的话，路加写道，当愤怒的群众用石头把司提反砸死之后，虔诚的人把他埋葬了，「为他捶胸大哭」。虔诚的人痛哭哀悼，这也许和某些人的想法相矛盾，但圣经却清楚地表明了失去亲人所带来的感情冲击。

主从不要求我们忽视我们心中的痛苦，相反地，他要我们「与哀哭的人同哭」（罗马书12章15节），我们要彼此互爱、互相支持，共同度过哀伤。

真诚的眼泪所显示的爱， 是言语办不到的， 那是说：「我同感痛苦， 我的心与你同在。」

悲哀同担，负担减半。